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Sally’s face breaks out. She buys creams and cleansers and colors. Soon she has to cover most of it up with several layers.

George wants to recapture the magic he used to know in the excitement of the chase and the moment of sexual bliss. After awhile he uses all sorts of ploys and toys and still longs for the missing magic.

The ways you deal with some things may be only covering up the building poisons.


Sally and George may think they are listening to their bodies. They find so many variables, so many red herrings or wild cards, that it’s hard to make any sense of what they hear. They rely on cover-ups.

I believe that the cleaner I can keep my body inside the clearer and less confusing will be the messages I receive. Here are some means of cleansing, listed in order of what for me is least invasive to most effective.

 1. Flushing with pure drinking water
 2. Sauna and sweating and bathing
 3. Deep breathing of outdoor, non-traffic air
 4. Exercise: stretching, continuous movement, or lifting weights
 5. Fiber from raw foods and whole grains, increased “fiber” if with meat
 6. Stop breathing for a few seconds
 7. Deep massage
 8. Water only fasting for a day
 9. Colonics and special exercises
 10. Cleansing foods: raw beets, bay leaf tea, green leaves, dandelion

Sally may discover increased breakouts on her face as she cleans up on the inside and sends accumulated poisons out through her skin. There may be other “die-off” effects like sore throat, runny nose, tiredness, diarrhea, or headache, so go easy or get supervision on the items nearer the bottom of the list. If Sally keeps on listening and doing the things that enhance her listening, her complexion will clear up to baby-like softness.

By listening to his own body, George can clean up his circulation and increase his sexual pleasure. No one will be surprised, however, that I believe George’s greatest satisfaction will be achieved through his listening to his partner, both her words and her body.

 

Natasha starts paying attention to what goes into her body. She wants to lose weight in hopes that this will help her feel stronger and more positive. She buys recipe books and food supplements. She studies food groups and calorie charts. She tries one diet and then another.

With each new try, after a great first start, Natasha’s body and metabolism automatically adjust to bring her back to the same weight and mental attitude as before.

The new disappointment adds to her baggage, and Natasha wonders what there is to live for.

Diets can kill you, too. But here's one that works:

Eat Like a Horse!

That’s right, eat like a horse—if you truly do eat like a horse. The keys are: eat your food live, exercise before you eat, and listen to yourself!

Live cells in your body need live food! Yes, I am vegetarian—since birth, then by choice, and fully recommending the lifestyle. I also recognize that it’s not for everyone. I simply recommend as much live food, or not far from live, as you can stuff into your menus. I can hear much more clearly my body’s messages about live foods than about processed foods.

Here are some notes for specific concerns about living vegetarian.

1. Protein: Get to know soybeans in bean curd (tofu), soy milk, and protein drinks.

2. Calcium: Raw kale and spinach leaves taste good. Olive leaf and dolomite are also simple sources.

3. B vitamins: It’s ok to have an egg or cup of yogurt once in awhile. Use whole wheat and brown rice.

4. Antioxidants: The chewing of live food breaks up live molecules and releases many particles that are just aching to attach to a free radical and neutralize its power to oxidize and harm.

If you eat meat, eat it only with non-starchy vegetables. Starchy vegetables or grains eaten with meat, and sugar or sweet fruits eaten with anything else in a meat diet, only slow down intestinal processing and transit, allowing the buildup of fat, toxins, and cravings.

Live muscles, fed on live nutrients, cry out for live action! Listen to your body for the best time to do the live action, usually not right after the meal.

The best news for Natasha and her weight management endeavors is that she can listen to herself. She might learn that, rather than hungry, she’s really tired and a nap will do as well as a snack. Or she might learn that she’s angry and needs to find a listener or be a listener to herself in order to get it off her chest. Sometimes apparent hunger is disguised as loneliness or resulting boredom, and loneliness can be helped by listening.

Again, listening as a gift is the magical lost connection for nutrition and weight management.

 

You want to feel strong—strong in the gut, strong in the spine, so you can carry yourself in a way that shows you mean business. You want to feel positive and energetic to take on the day and your dreams.

Coffee helps for awhile, or maybe even a cigarette. The doctor helps, but you get disappointed in how little the doctor listens to your deep craving to feel a lot better.

Maybe medicine needs something else; so you try alternative medicine. There’s always someone new out there ready to tell you what’s wrong with you and what’s good for you, but you discover few of them agree with one another.

It seems that it would be possible to pursue diagnoses and prescriptions all the way to the grave.

 

There are so many factors that influence my strength and vitality levels. It really gets confusing sometimes, especially when there are so many voices willing to diagnose and prescribe for me.

I propose that anything that helps me to hear my own body is helpful to me and anything that confuses my hearing is not helpful. I have two observations of what is helpful and what is not helpful.

First, much of what any other people tell me is a reflection of their own body messages, not mine. If their voices come to me in the form of “shoulds” and “have tos” then I can’t hear my own body quite so well. Their well-intentioned advice is not helpful. So I gather around me people who can help me listen to my own messages as the most authentic word for me.

Second, mixtures, compounds, extracts, and derivatives confuse my body messages so I can’t hear them as well. I want simplicity in food, food supplements, exercise, cleaning supplies, and clothing so I can profitably ask myself and hear the answer to the question, Do I feel strong or weak in the presence of this item? Simplicity is helpful. So I avoid purchasing and bringing into my home the many complex mixtures available.

Thus listening to myself is the lost link for strength and vitality in body and mind.

 

 

The gift we give each other here is that of listening.

Listening is not approval, not “Yes” or “No,” or “Right” or “Wrong.”

Listening is not advice, not giving solutions or making corrections.

Listening is not taking action, fixing problems or choosing for another.

Even when we are wrong or distraught, the best gift we give each other is to listen.

To listen is to accept, to say, “Thanks for being real and sharing it”; this frees us to really be.

To listen is to affirm the existence of another; true solutions come only to those who accept existence without solutions.

To listen is to be there while another grows; growing happens best in the presence of a friend.

The gift we give each other here is that of listening.

Last Updated (Tuesday, 20 April 2010 09:04)

 
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